“The feeling of good sex at any age”
~ Cynthia G. Creel
She had been married for the last 25 years to the love of her life, she was older, but not that old. She could hear her husband lying next her snoring heavily wondering what had happened to them. They had started out just like most couples wanting to be with each other almost every second of the day. They just couldn’t get enough of each other and the adult relationship was now mostly just a memory of goodness. It was almost like someone, somehow had put a deadening solution all over her body. Only in this case it was like being dead and painful to the touch all at the same time. She remembered when everything had a natural flow that just automatically happened with just a touch of the finger tips, just a look of longing and like magic, no thought, just action that satisfied.
She thought how the last few decades she had only gained a few pounds a year that had added up to 30 pounds extra. She thought of herself as healthy, just a little heavy. She thought if I am healthy then why is there no bliss in our life’s?
Things were more mechanical now, sometimes non existent. She felt dead and empty inside, it seemed nothing could awake the lust hungry girl that once was. She looked longingly at her husband and knew it had to be the same for him. She knew she loved him and he loved her more then the day they had married. She still felt a loss in her life that she knew not how to explain. She knew he kept trying to create a fire of love, but there was only a small spark now and then. Too tired all the time, too much to do, to heavy, too angry at life to understand why, just lying there in the dark to wonder why.
She knew there had been changes she felt the burning hot flashes come and go during the day or night and noticed her husband slipping, not taking care of the projects around the house. Her husband seemed to be only interested in sports and unable to plan to take care of the small projects around the house only to saying, “Yes, I will take care of that.” Of course it would rarely be taken care of.
She thought of her husbands high blood pressure, he was only in his early 50’s. She listen closely to his breathing once more to make sure he was still alive and breathing freely. She wasn’t sure if he stopped breathing for a few tenths of a second or not. Could he have sleep apnea? (2)
That would not be a good thing, how could she live without him? How could he live without her?
They were like a match set, not a whole person without the other in their life. They both had to live, to be together in old age when kids had moved out and there was time to just focused on them and live life. She didn’t want to loose out like her parents did, when her mom died just after her dad had retired. Only two years of traveling and having fun and then the pain of loss with her mother‘s early death. She felt there was an answer, that living in a below par sex life was like eating junk food, it filled you up, but gave very little to help you feel stronger inside.
She refused to give up and thought about what had happened. What could she do to help bring back the spark in their lives. They were not dead yet, there was a lot to live for. She knew she would always love him, no matter what. They would find a way to feel young again, to have a body to act young again.
The next morning it hit her the high blood pressure. It affects all the blood vessels and especially the smallest blood vessels. When she thought how the body had to preformed to create the passionate act she knew high blood pressure had to be part of the cause of their inability. She had read of people in their 70’s, 80’s, even older still being able to have a physical relationship. She thought about her body and knew her body needed blood flow also. This was the moment she knew she had to change giving her body a chance to heal to be able to perform. For her husband to feel like a man and her to become the women she once was, to become the couple they had been.
She decided it wasn’t their age, it was their bodies that just couldn’t perform the way they should be. This was the moment she decide that it wasn’t the age that held them back from enjoyment of each other. It was their bodies that were breaking down. It had been forever that her husband had picked her up and twirl around, giving her a passionate kiss.
She stepped into the kitchen a new women with a new goal. She didn’t know how long it would take, it would take as long as it would. This was the day she stepped on to the path of True Health. She would make many mistakes. She would learn. She would live. She would love. She would have a young acting body with a young husband again, to enjoy all that marriage had to offer. The fairytale ending would arrive a little at a time, until one day she looked at her husband and he looked at her, no words had to be spoken to create the chemistry of the young as her husband picked her up and twirled her around, they smiled and they kisses. She knew all was right with the world again.
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This story is far too typical of couples, others may vary on ability or age, yet the loss of having a physical relationship in many cases is unnecessary and most suffer needlessly. Many times prescription drugs interfere with the bodies ability to perform, helping to a point and when all else fails needed to survive. There are so many environmental effects on a body in modern life. It is mind boggling that an adult Americans over 60 have over a 90% chance of having high blood pressure which has a wide range of negative effects needing to be monitored by medical professional until it can be resolved over time. (1)
High blood pressure is one of the larger signs of being off the path of True Health. Snoring (2) is one of the very first signs even found in children and our pets. For some reason many people including myself have thought snoring children and pets was so cute. Today all I would hear is the freight train of death starting the engine to slowly pick up speed until the train jumped the tracks 30 years later to an uncertain future. Also knowing the train can be slowed or stopped by step on the path of True Health. Being proactive to find better ways, to be able to think, plan and act. The only requirement is to stay alive to have a chance to change. That can have some luck, yet I believe luck is created. As Seneca, a roman dramatist, philosopher and politician (5 BC to 65 AD) said, “Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.” The only requirement is a person must be alive to solve a problem and that would mean to use any tool available.
Some are totally unaware of the problems only wondering why they don’t have the same life when they were in their 20’s or 30’s, risking death everyday without being aware. Blood pressure is one of the larges signs that a body is not on the path of True Health. High blood pressure as no feeling to many and just does what it does damaging the body every second when uncontrolled. Like a time boom waiting to go off. We each must understand what is challenging our body. We must be proactive with our medical professionals to make sure they understand so we can understand what is needed and be aware of the needs of our body, mind and soul. The path of True Health can help the body to heal and perform just like a younger body giving full benefits to enjoy.
Make a choice to do better each day and find where the True Path of Health leads. Many are surprised what they will gain. Too many sit and do nothing, too overwhelmed or not understanding there is much to be done. To skip over the idea that the ability to have sex should last a lifetime and just settling for less is a self made prison. It is highly recommended to consult a medical professional to ensure the risk of death is at a minimum. The medical professionals are only able to do some much for us. We are the ones who live within our own bodies 24/7. The path of True Health has many twist and turns and it always starts with hope for a better life that is often times answered.
By Design ~ “Life is good By Design”
Photo by Cynthia G. Creel all rights reserved ©2013
The half hidden woodpecker with the bright red head in the center of the picture landed on the pecan tree on the By Design Farm. This little guy represents how difficult it is to line up every thing for a photo needing all the parts of the tree, blue sky, branch, pecans still attached to the tree and of course the woodpecker half hidden behind a group of pecans to come together as one and to tell a story in itself. Sex is no different all the parts much work and come together to create the picture we want and when that picture happens it is good sign that all is on the right path.
3-2-2013 all rights reserved ©2013 written permission is needed to duplicate
Disclaimer: This article is not intended to provide medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Views expressed here do not necessarily reflect those of By Design or Cynthia G. Creel. Consultation of a medical professional is highly recommended before any changes are considered. This article is not saying anyone person in a leadership position is unhealthy or healthy, it is just a possibly of many and is only speaking in general terms. .
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Sources:
(1) http://men.webmd.com/guide/high-blood-pressure
(2) http://lifeisgoodbydesign.blogspot.com/2013/03/the-freight-train-of-death-nanashhhhh.html
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